Gotcha, and for my part I’m sorry for digging up old wounds. I absolutely feel you did the right thing, not every guy would step up.
I guess you and I just have a kind of love/hate thing going, lol. There are times when I really take comfort in your support and other times I probably use you as a representative for every liberal in the world that bugs me, lol. That’s not fair though, and I apologize.
Saying I'd step up and actually doing it are two different things. I'd like to think I would have held to that, but who really knows?
This recent dynamic is interesting. There's never any hate with me. Not even the folk here who tend to ride me rather hard sometimes. And certainly not with you. I kind of passed a final breaking point a while back. It had nothing to do with anything here. It's more about time management than anything. Managing emotions is a very important part of that.
I already don't get embarrassed by much, but now I care about people more than the squabbles I have with them. I still enforce my own boundaries and express my feelings. I just don't bleed all over them. That's seldom helped me. I see so many friends cutting other friends out of their lives for petty differences and I looked to my own.
I still haven't blocked anyone on my Facebook after liberating my list. I get frustrated sometimes with folk, but quickly disengage my personal feelings and look to their feelings and problem solving.
People are my Sudoku. Sounds weird, I know, but figuring out how people are and making them feel comfortable and listened to is genuinely the thing I've always valued most. I never want anyone to feel as horrible as I did in my first 18 years of life. I'm the anti-that for anyone who's ever met me in person. Online, however, is a challenge for all of us.
My methods have been rather scattershot over the years, but I feel like there's a better grasp on that. Time will tell. I'll probably screw up a lot more times. But there are never sore feelings with me. Don't worry about that. And there's no micro aggression either. What you see is what ya get.
BTW, back to the pregnancy scare many years back. People - we used protection, and that usually works, but it's best to cover more bases than one and to follow instructions carefully. Just saying!